My grandma, my dad’s mom.
She died suddenly in late 2001 after an aneurysm, so it’s been almost 20 years now.
I know that by now, the odds of her being gone would be really high, but in 2001, none of us expected to lose her.
What really sucks about the timing of her death is that while my siblings and I now have 17 children between the four of us, at the time of my grandma’s death only 2/17 were born.
My grandma loved babies and children, and my goodness, she would have loved to meet all of these great-grandchildren. It sometimes feels a little unfair that she was gone so soon.
But then sometimes I think of the sad things that have happened since 2001, like that three of my cousins have died.
And then I think maybe it is a mercy that God took her when she did. She loved her grandchildren so much, maybe those losses would have wrecked her heart.
But selfishly speaking, I do wish she was still here!
Jody S. says
My mother. Deeply.
I can only imagine. Hugs to you!
Jody S. says
Thank you.Today was a most trying first day of homeschool for me. I do need hugs. 🙂
kristin @ going country says
This sounds sort of odd, but our postmistress. She died last week from COVID, and she was not old–maybe in her 50s. It happened pretty quickly, and my three-year-old daughter is heartbroken. She went almost every day up to the post office on our horse with my husband, and Ms. J. kept popsicles and sometimes ice cream sandwiches there basically just for her. They were friends. And watching a three-year-old try to process the death of a friend is a very hard thing. Ms. J. was just a lovely person, and we all miss her.
Oh. I am sorry.
Oh, that is so sad to hear. 🙁
Jody S. says
Oh, wow. That is hard. My children have so many lovely older friends at our church, and I dread the eventualities. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Ruth T says
My dad’s mom was one of the first people that came to my mind, too. But a few days ago I was thinking about how much I miss my college roommate. We were the best of friends and each other’s maid of honor. Though I moved a lot after college, we had our first babies within 4 months of each other and eventually ended up just an hour apart. We used to do monthly playdates and she was still my best friend for years. Things slowed down a couple of years ago once the girls started kindergarten, she went back to work full-time, and then COVID hit at the same time she was pregnant and had to be super careful about her pregnancy. I haven’t seen her in a year and I miss her.
Oh, I miss so many people, both living and in heaven! My daughter, my husband, my best friend, my brother-in-law, lots of friends, and, of course, parents and grandparents are all with our creator. Other people just live far away or are busy. It’s not too late to connect with them. My step-daughter is having a challenging time in life and wishes to not be in touch much lately. The good thing is I can think of these people, pray, reminisce, and feel spiritually connected, regardless of where they happen to be!
Your Grandma is beautiful and I really see a strong resemblance to you and your children!
Definitely my mom. She died last year during the early Covid lockdowns. She did not have Covid, she was just old and her body was worn out. Because of the lock downs she could not have visitors during the last two months of her life in assisted living, the hospital, and rehab turned hospice care. It was a terrible time for her and those that loved her.
Since her death there are so many things that I wish I’d asked her about while she was still alive. I still want to call her and tell her about things and hear about her life. I miss visiting her and my hometown, it’s not the same without her there. My mom had a good life and lived to be almost 91 but there is still a hole in my heart.
Wow, this is a hard one. My uncle is not doing well, and at 93, is the last living member of my dad’s birth family, so I am both awaiting and dreading the eventual bad news. My mom’s birth family is already all gone. My husband is the last of his birth family, too. I miss all of them, and so many others besides.
Especially, though, I have to say I miss my parents. They got to see all of their grandkids, but only one of the great-grands, and there are ten of them now, so I totally get your feeling, Kristen. There are so many things I would have liked to have had my parents around for… my kids graduating high school and college — marriages, births, accomplishments. I lost my parents in a house fire on Oct. 5, 1998, so the anniversary of their deaths is coming up, and that usually brings back the feeling of loss more than usual. I know where they are now and I look forward to seeing them again, but I still regret the many things we didn’t get to share here for a while longer.