I’m going to modify this one.
New title: What qualities do you value in your romantic partner?
I’ve only ever had one romantic partner, so the question doesn’t exactly make sense for me any other way!
So, a few things I value about my only romantic partner:
His faith
I would personally not ever want to be in a romantic relationship with someone who did not share my faith. My faith is my core identity, it colors everything in my life, and I would run into a zillion problems if I were hitched to someone who was not a Christian.
His commitment to our children
My kids are one of the most important things in my life (kids aren’t exactly things, but you know what I mean!), and I’m grateful that the same is true for him.
The fact that he’s into me
Even when I think I’m not lookin’ that great, he still thinks I do. 🙂
His hugs
In my opinion, a good hug is extremely valuable.
He doesn’t need to be fancy
I couldn’t think of a great way to phrase this, but what I’m trying to say is that I’m not really a highbrow person when it comes to date nights or clothes or home decor or really much of anything in life, and I appreciate that he’s not either.
In other words, we’re perfectly happy with a date night that involves eating burgers while wearing jeans and hoodies.
My husband also does not need fancy. When we first married, we went out for expensive dinners on holidays and birthdays…about five years into it, he said that what he wanted to do was rent a video (back in Blockbuster days and no streaming) and bring home Big Macs and just enjoy sitting there in our pajamas, eating and watching a movie.
I love that my husband is very, very physically affectionate. Also that he is not a yeller and in 37 years has never raised his voice in anger; if upset, he asks me to sit down and we talk about it. Finally, he has always supported my career choices, even moving to bush Alaska and living in villages of 150 people for years. (Life can get tricky when everyone knows everyone’s business, you are in a place of extreme temps, and there is no road in or out so the only way to leave is in 6 or 12 seater planes.)
Does your husband offer calmness training? 🙂
Number one would be my husband’s love of God…even before his love of me!
His commitment to me and our marriage is SO awesome; he is the man who holds my hair back when I’m getting sick to my stomach! He always tells me how nice I look and how pretty I am, even when I know I’m not looking that great!!
His work ethic
His sense of humor
His love of family
Date nights at home, playing games. I think as we are growing older together our lives are just getting simpler.
My husband and I are so in tune on nearly everything: politics, children, fav restaurants, finances, intimacy, movies, that we have found it kind of spooky. We complete each other’s sentences, fill in each other’s words when we can’t think of the word, enjoy the same activities (except for his xbox games :)), are best friends, and have no secrets. When we disagree, we talk it out. I am not a perfect human but he always tells me I am perfect – for him.
The qualities that attracted me to him were: his passion for . . . well, everything in life. He never does anything halfway. He is always willing to make changes in himself if necessary rather than trying to change me or others.
Granted, it has taken us almost 30 years to get to this wonderful place in our relationship.